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10 Myths About Church Quitters

Despite the almost mantra-like status of the statement “people are leaving the church” there still appears to be little understanding about who is leaving, when they leave, why they leave, and what happens to them and their faith after they leave. Of course everyone has their own view on these issues but few, especially our church leaders, have taken the time to sit down and talk with an actual leaver or two.

It is much easier dealing with stereotypes than actual people, even if the stereotypes don’t help us understand what is really going on. For those interested in moving beyond the stereotypes and asking: “Who are these people who are leaving our churches?” an examination of some myths about church leavers may prove helpful.

Alan Jamieson

I first came across Alan Jamieson’s work through Julia Duin’s book, Quitting Church.

Here is his list:

Myth #1

It is only the traditional mainline churches that have large numbers of leavers. While it is true that people are leaving the traditional churches people are also leaving evangelical, charismatic and Pentecostal churches.

Myth #2

The people who leave are young adults, people on the fringe of our churches, and people who have not been in the church for very long.

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An Open Letter to Julia Duin, author of “Quitting Church”

Julia, I have finished reading your book called Quitting Church: Why The Faithful Are Fleeing And What To Do About It. I enjoyed reading the book and found myself nodding in agreement on every page. At first, I was a little disappointed because I didn’t feel that you had added much to the conversation.  It seemed that a lot of your material was based on surveys and research that were well known and readily available to all of us already.  However, after re-reading the book I realize that was not a fair assessment.  Although some of your material did come from these surveys, it is helpful to have it all summarized here in one place.

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John Eldredge: Quit Church Because Sick of Pretending

Admittedly, I don’t know much about John Eldredge except that he was written some popular books and many people I know have said he is their favourite author.  I have read Epic: The Story God Is Telling
and enjoyed it, though.  I found out from Julia Duin’s book (Quitting Church: Why The Faithful Are Fleeing And What To Do About It) that John Eldredge quit attending church.  For some reason, I found that surprising.  (Perhaps this is the “mature Christian” who left the institutional church that was referred to here.)  Here is what he said in an interview for Beliefnet.com as reported by Julia Duin on page 169 of her book.

“I don’t think we’ve come to appreciate how utterly numbing most church experience is.  Most people’s church experience amounts to about an hour a week.  It’s the Sunday service.  They are passive participants for the most part.  They listen to a message, they hear some songs, some music, all in an attempt to sort of inspire and courage.  It is mind-numbing, most of it.

So yes, I took a year off of church.  Just because I was so sick of pretending.  I was faking it; that was the problem.  I was faking a holiness I didn’t have, I was faking an enthusiasm that frankly wasn’t there, and I said, “I can’t do that.  It’s dishonest.” (These interviews can be found here.)

(This last comment reminds of two songs which talk about talking one way and acting another way: The Pretender by the Foo Fighters and Acrobat by U2)

According to Julia, John Eldredge and his family left the established church a decade ago and “never looked back.”  He told Julia that it is good to take time off church “to find the real thing”.  He went on to tell her that church does meet the need of newer Christians but for the most part “they are not bringing people into a genuine encounter with God.”

Finally, John Eldredge says, “The accusation is that we are backsliding, but the fact is, we are living a richer Christian experience than ever.  It’s mature Christians who have opted out of church.”

. . . WOW! . . .

So, my question today is . . . for those who have opted out of church, do you feel you are living a richer Christian experience than ever (as John Eldredge) or have you had a different experience?  Leave your comments below.

Mature Christians Should Leave the Institutional Church?

There is a new book that might make it to Books That Influence This Blog.   I have ordered it from Amazon and I am excited to start reading it.  The book is Quitting Church: Why The Faithful Are Fleeing And What To Do About It

Quitting Church

Julia Duin is the religion editor for The Washington Times and a self-described born-again Christian (is that possible even possible? . . . ha ha).

Here is the product description from Amazon:

Duin brings two kinds of experiences to bear in this engaging little jeremiad: as religion editor for the Washington Times, she is in her element marshaling statistics, interviewing authors and clergy, and commenting on the trend of faithful evangelicals who increasingly vote with their feet by leaving their churches. But she’s also a self-described born-again evangelical herself, coping with the personal pain of not having a viable and permanent church home. Drawing heavily on research by pollster George Barna, Duin diagnoses a widespread dissatisfaction among evangelicals, who feel their churches do a decent job with new Christians but fall far short with mature believers. In particular, Duin shows, women and singles are leaving churches in ever-greater numbers. (As a single woman herself, she discusses her own experiences with being marginalized while successfully evoking a larger context through research and polls.) Duin has some prescriptions to help with these problems, including meatier sermons that address real issues; house churches and micro-churches that foster more genuine community; and even in-church matchmaking services to help singles who want to find a mate.

At the Wall Street Journal, Terry Eastland has written a review where he comments that Julia Duin calls church quitting an epidemic among evangelicals. He also writes:

She reports, among other things: a lack of a feeling of community among church members, inducing loneliness and boredom; church teaching that fails to go beyond the basics of the faith or to reach members grappling with suffering or unanswered prayer; pastors who are either out of touch with their parishioners or themselves unhappy, or who fail to shepherd their flocks, or who are caught up in scandal, or who try to control the lives of church members in a high-handed way. She claims that many churches have “inefficient leadership models” and that many, preoccupied with the care of families, neglect single people.

A “lack of feeling of community?” . . . “loneliness?”. . .  “boredom?” . . .  “out of touch?” . . .  “scandal?” . . . “inefficient leadership models?”  Really?  Come on now, not in OUR churches . . . really?  (sarcasm intended)

Apparently, Julia writes about “a best-selling evangelical author quitting his church and arguing that leaving the institutional church is something that “mature Christians” should do.”  Who is that?  Does anyone know? I really want to know who this “best-selling evangelical author” who quit his church was.  If you know, tell me.   (Of course, I can always wait to read the book but if you tell me that I don’t have to wait.)  (OK, since posting this originally, I believe I have found the answer to that question.  See here.)

My wife and I are church planters working in Japan, but currently residing in Canada until we go back to Japan in 2009.  And so, I am totally excited to read this book – not because I want more ammo to bash the institutional but because books like these are valuable resources for us.

Can’t wait for the next Amazon box to arrive on my porch!